Haven’t dated since my 20s. Got cheated on a lot. Like all of them. Some of them even bragged about cheating, to my face.
In my 30s, I put 0 effort into dating. The only type of women that wanted to ‘date’ me basically wanted me to take care of their kids, pay for shit, but they weren’t looking for anything serious or any more kids (spoiler, that was a lie). Last person, someone I’ve known for years, asked if I’d be interested in having kids with her since we are getting close to 40 and neither of us had started a family yet. But, I was to be just a sperm donor, obviously be financially responsible, but have no say in anything with the kids… But it was totally going to be 50/50! Turned her away. That one tore me up because I’ve really wanted to have kids for a long time. Painfully obvious she just wanted me involved for money and nothing else. Now her mom is bank rolling all her dreams.
I miss having someone to talk to, to make plans with, to share wonderful build a life with. But I don’t miss the drama, the games, the cheating, and the lies.
I’ve always had very very low interest in relationships anyway - I value my “alone time” greatly, prefer to not have emotional responsibilities towards other people and never wanted kids / a family. I fell in love exctly once in my life and that woman turned out to be a psycho. I have absolutely no interest in trying that ever again.
15+ years single and comfortable with the situation.
Some of y’all might just be aromantic or asexual. I thought I just had low interest in a relationship until I realized what exactly attraction is.
Are you me?
Same boat about just low interest in relationships, im not very social and dont go out to social events often… and apps are always a bit of a joke to me
Imo im just pretty comfortable being alone, and relationships seem like a lot of extra “work” that i probably wouldn’t care for much… if in the future i met someone and we hit it off then i wouldnt be opposed… but im really not gunna try putting myself out there/force it 😅
Been solo for +5 years
There are people that won’t want kids, and some of them are not psychos. Some are introverts also.
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My wife realized she wasn’t happy being married to a man and left me to date women. There was a lot I think I could have done, but I can’t change my gender. Feels bad.
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That’s… what?? Why would anyone think that would work
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I’m getting divorced as we speak, nothing is officially signed yet but it will come.
After 13 years of this relationship, I want to be alone at home and won’t be looking for any romance any time soon. Just plain old « enjoyment » and we’ll see what happens in the future.
My last breakup was very traumatic, and it’d taken about 5 years to heal from that. Ready to date again, but it’s harder now that I’m older.
Because I’m not in a relationship
I’m a lesbian in a small town 🫠
Confidence and weight issues, and I lost? Some of my social skills during the pandemic? I’m not sure how to put it, I feel like I can’t speak anymore.
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I don’t think dating apps are for me. Previous relationships did not work out. Despite having similar interests we were very incompatible. Filters do very little when people aren’t being entirely truthful. For example, last person’s profile said she never smokes and only drinks socially, but she smoked weed, vaped, and drank daily.
I want to go back to the traditional ways of meeting people, but I don’t like night life activities. I hear that volunteering and church are good ways to meet people in person. I’m also going to attend some upcoming local events featuring some of my interests.
Aro/ace here so no real interest beyond friendships for me.
For the first time in my life i actually want to be Single. Previously it was always that i didn’t want to be single but now i am Single and kinda happy with it
Needed to figure some stuff out about myself after a break up. Now it’s just getting out there and letting things happen organically.
I’ve only had one SO in my entire life. I was so deeply in love with her, but she had several mental health issues that made it really difficult and traumatic. Imagine a relationship in which one is not ready to have said relationship, and the other has no experience whatsoever in relationships. It was total chaos, and ended pretty badly.
Before this relationship I was completely obsessed with having a soul mate. I was constantly depressed because I wasn’t able to find a partner,.because there was nobody I was interested in to begin with.I thought I was broken. Turns out that, while I am able to have romantic feelings, I fall somewhere in the asexual spectrum. This means I actually don’t have any interest in anybody, unless I get to know that person and fall in love with them. But this has happened just two or three times in my life.
Right now, after my failed relationship, I’ve come to terms with the fact that I don’t really need , nor want, to be with anybody to be happy. Just like some of you, I appreciate my alone time and being “free”, not having any sentimental responsibility… So that’s why I’m single; because I want to.
