I’m male aged 19-22, I have an older brother about 4-5 years older (giving age ranges for better anonymity). Relationship is… not good (read: it’s terrible, horrifyingly terrible, arch-nemesis). How about you?

  • _cerpin_taxt_@lemmy.worldEnglish
    9·
    2 years ago

    I have two older brothers. One is an unhinged hypochondriac that’s gets off on fighting with people, and the other is a white supremacist. Haven’t talked to either in about 5 years. I have a brown daughter.

  • VoxelBase@lemmy.worldEnglish
    7·
    2 years ago

    Two younger sisters. The age difference is quite big, I am 8 years older than one and 13 years older than the other. That’s just a possible side-effect of being born when your parents were VERY young.

    The older of the two I barely speak with, no real animosity we just simply have nothing in common.

    The youngest one I speak with a little bit more often, as we do share some similar personality traits - I see a lot of myself in her from when I was younger.

    The final complication is that I live on the opposite side of the country from them. So no in-person visiting.

  • Today@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    2 years ago

    Only child, but i have a BIL. He’s an alcoholic asshole. I feel bad that I’m not closer with my niece and nephew. I know they could use some reasonable, loving adults in their lives.

  • pinwurm@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    2 years ago

    I have an older brother by 4-5 years.

    We didn’t really get along when we were young. Fought over things - games, TV remote, CD player, etc.

    But when he left for college, we grew closer. He still lived nearby, and my folks encouraged us hanging out. It was sort of an escape. Home life wasn’t great, and he and his friends were fun. He was around for a lot of my pivotal life moments. When I finally got to college, I moved in with him as roommates. Worked well.

    We’re friends, basically. We have very different personalities - but we understand each other very well.

    Now we live in different cities, hours apart. He’s married with a kid. I’m married and childfree. We see each other a few times a year. We text and call regularly.

    I guess in this sense, I’m quite lucky.

    • bloopernova@programming.devEnglish
      3·
      2 years ago

      I stopped talking to mine when he went batshit because I wouldn’t help him get onto Tor/darkweb. He wouldn’t say why he wanted to access it, and he got angry when I said I didn’t want to get involved.

      Then he accused me of being a “tony blair lover” which is kinda bizarre to me because I don’t live in the UK anymore.

      It was a very strange interaction!

  • sunbeam60@lemmy.oneEnglish
    3·
    2 years ago

    Got an older brother. We were very close growing up, sharing hobbies and friends, and it’s been our foundation for keeping in touch since then. We don’t see each other as often as I would like, but I would say our relationship remains strong. We’ve both kept in touch with the same group of friends. “Life”, however, has imposed on us both; we live in different countries, both with family (mine is large, his is small but his lovely son unfortunately has a set of issues) so finding time to both talk and meet is very, very difficult. I’m definitely the one keeping in touch (can’t remember the last time he called me, other than a few times where he needs IT support) but that’s understandable given what’s going ok with his son.

  • jmp242@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    3·
    2 years ago

    I have a younger sister, and we pretty much get along great. We live next door to each other (and near other family and friends), and her and her husband and I tend to go on trips semi frequently. We text frequently, and hang out etc.

  • lps2@lemmy.mlEnglish
    3·
    2 years ago

    Older sister by the same age range as yourself, OP. As kids we fought, when she made it to college we became closer, when she entered adulthood things got strained as she and my family did not approve of my SO (they were right, she was terrible), and once we were both adults we are friendly. We don’t really have much in common as she very much lives a “Leave It To Beaver” type life (kids, house in the burbs, stay at home mom) and my SO and I are DINKs, do extreme sports like rock climbing and backcountry ski/splitboard, and have no plans to have kids (vasectomy on the horizon). So we keep in touch but don’t connect on a lot of things besides our shared family members / updates on my nephews

  • Skellybones@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    2 years ago

    Had a older brother lost him 6 years ago found him again last year now we’re best brothers again

  • Cybermass@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    2 years ago

    Older sister, drug addict, lost her first kid and second kid is now permanently in the custody of my mother. We don’t speak, it’s hard to talk to her, she thinks shes a god and that she sees spirits and she’s just totally out to lunch.

    • DandomRude@lemmy.worldEnglish
      3·
      2 years ago

      I am very sorry to hear that. I have a friend who is an addict. We have really tried everything but it was futile - multiple withdrawals and all that. He ultimately ruined himself and his family. I wish you all the best, but please be careful.

      • Cybermass@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        2 years ago

        I appreciate the kind words. I myself am a recovered addict, was very addicted to Xanax and cocaine (which my sister introduced me to at a young age). It can be frustrating at times especially for myself to see people deal with this, because I was able to stop myself and change my life.

        Ultimately you can’t help those that don’t wish to help themselves, and trying to do that will accomplish nothing except for ruining your own life.

  • SharkEatingBreakfast@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    2·
    2 years ago

    I have 9 other siblings, ranging in age from 27 to 48 years old (I think… it’s hard to keep track lol)

    My relationships with them all border on good/tolerable. We are very fortunate to be on good terms, despite our very very different beliefs.

    I think it stems from the fact that we were never raised with malice/anger being an option in our home. Frustrated? Yes. Very much. But we were never hateful. There was always someone to bond with, and no one ever felt singled-out.

    It also helps that we all like our space and were mostly respectful and understanding of that aspect as we grew up. It can be a bit difficult for all of us to make friends who “get” us like our family does, so letting loose at get-togethers is always fun and hilarious.

  • marito@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    2 years ago

    I’m a man and the oldest of 6. My brother and I grew up being part of the same group of friends but grew apart in our early 20s (we’re now around 40), he has his own group of friends now, we rarely see each other but we’re in good terms. We have 4 sisters, 3 of them and I hang out whenever we get a chance and we’re very close, our other sister stopped hanging out with us because of some drama.