I’ve got backups. Haven’t updated or looked at my server in months. If I’m ever compromised by missing security updates, I just load a backup and regenerate all keys.

I don’t put any critical data on public facing servers.

You’ve already taken the first step. You want to.

This is not some thing you can just adopt whenever you want, like putting the plates on the right side of the dishwasher instead of the left. This will require some serious continuous practice.

Basically, to retrain your reaction to things, you must 1. understand why your current/natural reaction is undesirable 2. understand which reaction you think is desireable 3. Repeatedly expose yourself to the situation that triggers your reaction with the main goal to change your reaction.

1. and 2. requires you to continually remind yourself of these beliefs. You will forget when you slip back into your natural reaction.

3. is not easy. You can’t just manufacture adversity. It has to be real. It’s very easy to have a specific controlled reaction to something fake. So essentially, you just continue as normal, risk things, always keeping in mind that you can face adversity. You mentally prepare yourself for it so you can notice when it happens. “When I start this new job, people might be offended when I tell them I don’t want to talk to them. That is fine. I accept that they can be offended, because rejection is not a nice thing to experience, and that is what I do to them. However, I prefer this to having to suffer through their rambling. I know that this will likely cause them to help me less or actively oppose me, and I am fine with that outcome.”…

And then you just do it anyway. When your setback happens, you will first feel frustrated. But then eventually you will get a rational moment. See what is happening to you again. And then you can remember what you’ve been thinking so far. That it’s ok for this to happen. That being frustrated by it achieves nothing. And whatever else you figured out with 1. and 2. Each thing you remember should help you let go. Taking deep breaths and other relaxation techniques help with letting go.

And the result should be that you’re slightly less frustrated, for a slightly shorter time than you would’ve been without doing all this. It’s still essentially the same strength the first time, but it should be a little less.

And then you have another disappointment. That time, doing the same thing, it should sting even less and for even shorter. And so on and so on.

For me, I’m not sure how long and how many things it took. I know it was quite a few and over quite some years. Now, when I feel this frustration, it’s just a slight tinge for a few seconds at most, when I remember what I believe and that I’m fine with this, and then I can already completely let it go. Like others said, it’s a completely natural reaction, you might still feel like that. But eventually you’re so good at letting go that it takes mere seconds and then you’re completely fine.

It doesn’t rub me the wrong way because it’s incredibly understandable. People are generally jealous, people have hangups with trust, people want to feel powerful.

Whatever the guy’s reason is exactly, he is essentially not fine with what his wife wants to do, and even if she is completely fine with not doing something to alleviate her husband’s uncomfortableness, the need to do so in the first place is simply sad. It would just be optimal if everyone could do whatever they want at all times.

I make it a point to figure out my issues (why am I uncomfortable with something?) and if it makes sense to get rid of it, to get rid of it. It’d be nice if everyone did that but people are often just not in a mental place to be able to do that.

So in the end, I do very much understand what you mean, however I don’t really get upset by this. It’s incredibly common to “restrict” your partner like this, I mean, monogamy itself is already a restriction. So like you said, you should just let people do what they do, and be happy that it’s not like that for you.

I just use the qbittorrent “search” feature. Add some of the search plugins for different sites that you can find when you open the search options.

*Arrs are nicer, but a lot to setup imo. qbittorrent you just download, open it when you need it, and then you’re done with it. If you don’t torrent a lot, it’s more time-efficient.

Yep, as long as you don’t visit “local” and no instances are defederated, you simply get the whole fediverse, there isn’t any other experience available at that point.

You do know what non-binary means? Not part of the binary gender spectrum. Neither male nor female. Which bathroom should a person use that is neither male nor female? The male or the female one? What should they say on forms that ask you if you’re male or female? Should they be fine with being called “he” or “she” if neither apply to them?

I would guess it’s like us putting disinfectant on. “Are they even a doctor, they literally disinfect every wound”

Left-wing politics describes the range of political ideologies that support and seek to achieve social equality and egalitarianism

i.e. care about all citizens equally

But maybe we should let OP say what they meant

I mean caring about everyone is basically the definition of left-wing. So in my opinion this is a non-answer, OP basically did ask “why do people in Nordic countries care more what happens to their citizens?”, which you didn’t say anything about.

You have no idea if they weren’t calm. It didn’t sound snarky to me either.

What are you interested in that no one in the fediverse is interested in?

Why do you feel like an outcast?

I’m asking because you never know how old someone you’re interacting with online is. You could have been talking to people your age all the time. No one knew you were gen z before you said it here. I just feel like age is not really relevant towards feeling like an outcast.

That’d be the only answer I’d accept 😆

Not eating the pizza is indeed incorrect when the goal is to eat the pizza.

I like a good enema

It’s bad for certain parts of the economy and it is dangerous for current rulers.

Actually I don’t expect them to act logically or “adult”, whatever you mean by that. Adulthood doesn’t mean anything.

But that they don’t act like that is exactly why I think there won’t be any world scale wars.

There is no worst, most incorrect way to eat a pizza. The way someone eats something is irrelevant. There is no good or bad here.

It’s a western perspective. And of course it is. How many people of the sovjetbloc do you think are around here? I thought about this for a second and dismissed it because it’s with a 99% chance not relevant to the one asking here.

But still, thank you for providing this perspective, it is like you say, I just didn’t think it was relevant to this question in this place we’re in.

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Something is only talked about if talking about it accomplishes something. Gen X doesn’t raise any strong feelings with anyone, so they’re not talked about. They’re still there obviously.

The reason why is complex, and I’m no expert myself. However, from what I gathered about recent history, what seems most likely to me is that the time gen x’ers grew up in was very stable in the sense that economy was good, no major wars were happening, the cold war was “ending”. So the only thing gen x’ers had to worry about was themselves. So they did. And you don’t really need to talk about someone that just keeps to themself. They cause you no issues.

Another theory of mine is very simple: humanity changes over time. The larger the time, the larger the change. Differences between humans breeds conflict as their interests collide. Since boomers are the current oldest larger impactful generation, and gen z are the youngest, the difference between them are greatest. Thus the conflict between them is highest, thus there are a lot of people talking about those problems. I’ve been hearing less about millennials as well.

It doesn’t actually change being away from university.

The only way it changes is if you change your mindset.