Your caveman brain. People think they’re educated an enlightened and everything they do now is so well thought out. Nope, the caveman is in the driving seat for all of us. Even your most high level meetings and interviews are influenced by how hungry, horny, or hurt you are by a teasing comment yesterday. Everyone is looking to establish dominance at any cost, when you don’t really need to.
I’m both cases my view on the people is the same: they do understand. The information has always been there and publicised. People wanted this.
We don’t like what they want and we call them dumb, but it is no easy task to effectively use propaganda on this many people. It’s also easy to label people “stupid”, which is not true. This mindset genuinely exists. America is a Trump supporting nation. UK is a Brexit supporting nation (I don’t know if current regret surveys would translate into votes, Reform has more support than ever and it is increasing, and surveys last time also predicted that the majority didn’t support Brexit).
There have been a lot of podcasts looking academically how this polarisation and thinking has come about in the last 2 decades. I’m really interested in getting to the bottom of answers of how people are so convinced like this rather than the simplistic and inaccurate conclusion that “they are all dumb”.
I was about to finish my training and no jobs were coming up. Then the guy in the job I wanted in my local area died just as my training was about to finish (he didn’t seem old or sick to me, and I still have no idea what happened there). They put this job out to advertise rapidly and hardly got a couple of applicants…and I’ve been here since.
All news sites should be consumed via RSS. Their front pages are the equivalent of social media algorithms and you only see what they want to show you. When you use RSS you get a list of news in time order and see news stories you would never see on their website because of how fast they drop it from their front page and bury it in menus.
Speak to someone who knows your context. Someone preferably with some experience to give some perspective. Try some introspection. Read things written by people wiser than Lemmings.
I personally love podcasts. I’ll always be able to recommend from there:
You Are Not So Smart: 306 - I Never Thought of it That Way - Mónica Guzmán (rebroadcast). Episode webpage and Media file
I wouldn’t drop someone with such a long history and lots of positive features so quickly from my life. My parents can be racist. My family can be judgemental. My friends can be intolerant. A single aspect doesn’t define the whole of someone. If you go having deep conversations with people you know, you’ll quickly find some aspect in everybody that you deeply dislike.
If a black man can make friends with the most racist KKK members, and actually get them to change their minds through conversation, then there’s hope for anyone.
Even if you want to break off the friendship, you don’t have to do it today. The thought of that is obviously causing a lot of pain. See how things play out. Giving things time is almost always a good idea.
This is the most true statement in this whole thread and the best advice here. Don’t ask Lemmy.
Late 30s myself. Hair was pretty much individial scatrered follicles at the top by the time I was 22. Rocking a number 1. Very short length is surprisingly high maintainence as even a bit of regrowth shows quickly so it needs to be trimmed back down every 2 weeks max. I alternate between “I’m not paying someone to do this, I’ll trim it myself”; and “I can’t be bothered with this effort, I’m going to get a barber to do this”.
This is part of my identity now. Being called “bald” doesn’t sound like an insult and just sounds descriptive to me now (my pre-school had started calling me bald everyday and patting my head). I refuse to even consider any hair regrowth treatment. If it magically grew back one day, I would provably grow it to short-medium length and complain the whole time about how much effort this shit is.
Same.
Although I like to recommend RSS. 'Social " media is overrated. If people are looking for content them just subscribe directly to the source.
I’m in the same position as you. I haven’t found a good solution. I just keep blocking each individual community when I come across it in the feed.
I would be surprised if this mattered, but I don’t know for sure. The more serious problem would be if your sent emails get caught in their spam filter.
I use Brave search and that serves me well (although Lemmy really hates the founder of Brave and my comment is going to get a lot of downvotes). If you need to use google, then you can reduce the data gathering as much as possible by using startpage for google search results.
Degopgling isn’t an “all-or-nothing” endeavour. Even if you start using google 20% less, then that’s still progress and you can improve slowly over time.
Have you heard of “engagement optimised match making”? Have a look on YouTube.
It’s OK. This is a shower thought. It doesn’t need to stand up to rigorous scrutiny.
Your list could be applied to any business.
Lemmy seems to have a very strong voice for pushing people towards Linux… But I don’t hear nearly enough about ditching Google and other mega-corps. I started Degoogling long ago and have been really happy with the result. There are lots of alternatives and there’s no reason to stick with Google the way people do. Your description of half-baked shitty products is their hallmark. Their bloody search doesn’t even work well anymore and that’s what the whole business got launched on.
Lemmy please strongly considering De-googling. It’s quite easy for almost all services.
Oldest.
There’s a podcast by Malcolm Gladwell where he says data shows the single best predictor of successful college application or success with college sports is your month of birth. Being oldest in the class comes as a huge advantage and is making many American families “red shirt” their child by putting them in school a year later; and this making them the oldest child in the class all the way through.
This just sounds more and more appealing. Count me in.
Wife approval factor
My wife won’t use it if she can’t see an app for it to click on to start using immediately. Going through browsers is not an option. Not having a dedicated app on the LG TV is not an option. Not being able to find something instantly means instant rejection. She refused Plex, but now sometimes uses it and has learnt to find subtitles, etc by herself.
I don’t touch my self hosted apps. If something doesn’t behave properly on the first attempt then it gets rejected from our household. It’s only for us enthusiast nerds to put up with kanky UI and setup issues for the sake of superior functionality. Normie’s won’t tolerate it.
you don’t need to give social advise to a neurotypical person
Supremely disagree.
Here’s a podcast episode I’ve heard today to illustrate the example of just how bad most “neurotypical” can be with simple social interactions:
Hidden Brain: We Need to Talk
Episode webpage: https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/we-need-to-talk/
I think other large supermarkets do too.