Agree. They’ve been very persistent to sell their paid plans, e.g. the first thing I see after logging in to Proton Mail is their pop-up ads.

Have you tried to engage your core more? edit: Sorry in advance for the reddit link, but here you go https://old.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/1h4j9sl/tifu_by_never_using_my_core_muscles_for_thirty/

I think finding a community of people from your country might help alleviate some of the homesickness.

Maybe check/follow your ambassador social media and see if they have any event?

Mango tree!! 🥭🌳

It’s big, it provides plenty of shades, it’s unassuming, and most importantly it has mangoes!!

Sorry for the late answer and the text wall

1. Depends on the severity and how much they know about my avoidance habit. I would say sorry (as genuine as I can) and told them about my problem (or most likely make up a believable one that neurotypical person can accept) that made me unable to respond to them in timely manner. That it is wholly a Me problem and not a You problem. I would try my best to complete what they ask of me or help them with something else just to keep it even. This vulnerability talk will exhaust your mental energy tbh, some people will definitely have negative reaction and rightfully so, especially in professional setting. Tho some bridges have been burnt so bad I don’t even try 🫠 Still, it’s very much worth it, rather than spiralling down to depression town, sinking in the guilty mud trap.
2. I too wish I have an answer for this one. If you have the means, try finding out the reason. Maybe it’s ADHD, maybe it’s AvPD, maybe it’s both, neither, or something else. So far, applying CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) has helped me improve, but it’s not a bulletproof solution. My avoidance mostly comes from my tendency to be a perfectionist (which comes from past experience, upbringing, yadda yadda), so I try to accept that sometimes it is okay to be flawed, to disappoint, to not try my best for someone else’s sake just to get their approval. Try to have healthy habits that improve mood/health. I also try not to spend too much time inside all day without actual human interaction, because I can definitely get more anxious when I haven’t interact with real people (actual interaction face-to-face, not text/chat with people online) to keep me grounded.

Just keep on keeping on one step at a time.

Dude, I would be ecstatic if my hypothetical date said they listen to marching band music. Please recommend me some.

I used to think white wall and floor are just too basic, but having stayed in my friend’s almost-all-black studio apartment made me appreciate how easy it is in white/bright-themed bathroom to see any impending cockroach before it crawls on any of my limbs :(

Ghosting someone (multiple really) when I just couldn’t handle all the things they expect me to do. It’s childish and very much my own mistake for not being clear with my boundary and overestimating my mental energy.

Slowly making it up one person to the next.

You just gotta prepare something for their birthday next year. No need for something big, just thoughtful. Add a sincere apology or two and I’m sure they will appreciate it.

I also tend to forget someone’s birthday other than my partner and immediate family so I just put them in my calendar. No more accidentally forget about friends’ birthday, unless I’m really busy and my ADHD acting up.

Can I be your friend?

I’m very interested, would like to have family dinner tradition too when/if I start a family. I just don’t have any idea how to start. Can you tell me more how does the routine go? Like, who is responsible for what? Do you cook/buy dinner? What are the do’s and don’ts while having dinner? How to enforce it while making sure everyone enjoy this routine? What kind of obligations are okay as an excuse to not participate?

I know it’s too many questions, just the gist of it is fine.

I guess you’re kind enough to do that.

Do you have any good resource for beginner to learn about this?

In general, I mostly focus on pet > plants > bathroom > kitchen > everything else.

Wait, I don’t get it. The alternative that the guy propose sounds like a win-win though? What if one of them likes vacuuming twice a week and the other once every month? What’s the right way to divide it fairly?

(I’m a woman who vacuum as needed.)

I know I play video games much less now, but it is not because of the lack of interest, just time and energy.

Always hesitated to start playing when all I can think about are my responsibilities. The one time I tried playing the new Stardew Valley-like game, I Loved it but also not, because it was suddenly 3 AM on Monday 🥲

If I suddenly have 1 million in my bank account, I’m sure I’ll find my passion for video games back hah

There are many games that I still can’t wait to play and I’m in my mid 30s too. Then again, I care more about story and characters than (fast-paced) gameplay so maybe that’s why?

As a leecher with atrocious upload speed. Thank you so much for your service.

I always upvote unexpected Homestuck. 👍

Also agree it is a banger.

(I almost though this is a One Piece bait question.)

But seriously, yes I will, without hesitation. If I don’t take it, someone else might and I won’t even have a job as a geologist or genealogist.

This is the most comprehensive strategy that I can vouch for.

Done all of them.

I would say, the last one is underrated but very much useful not just for getting over a crush but for personal growth in general, which is a lifetime skill.

You’d be surprised by how many adults don’t understand themselves or even avoid doing self-reflection. In consequences, stumble upon the same problem again and again without taking different/better approach to handle them.