The BDFL model, as it’s called, is what allows large projects to continue to have focused vision rather than devolving into design-by-committee. The kernel is actually already well beyond pure BDFL, but my point is having a single point of overall leadership can be a huge boon for the organization of large and complex projects. FOSS philosophy has literally nothing to do with management structure; it’s entirely about the rights of the end user.

BDFL is not without its own risks. WordPress is a good counterexample these days. But, when someone originates a project and sticks around to steer it, it would be silly to reject their proven successful leadership for such a vague reason as you have presented.

When things do go sideways, people are free to fork the project. That is what FOSS is.

Excellent, I’ll try the $8 option

Exposure therapy can be quite powerful. Let yourself feel upset: don’t be ashamed that your emotions lash out. Let yourself feel, then remind yourself how things aren’t as bad as they feel. Feeling and introspecting rather than suppressing in the face of pain is emotional weight lifting.

There will be times when you lack the emotional strength to exercise, and that’s ok too. Everything in life ebbs and flows, and you can slowly make meaningful progress toward deeper happiness by taking advantage of the flows while showing yourself grace for your human imperfections when things ebb.

A major pillar of self improvement it seems we share is letting go of the expectation that everyone will like you. It’s just as likely to be someone else’s problems that lead them to not gel with you as it is to be your own problems. You have just as much a right to be imperfect as they do, but no amount of self-improvement can change other people’s problems. At any given moment, the world simply is as it is and you can only make choices to navigate the future as best as you are able.

Finding controlled ways to put yourself in a bit of emotional peril can be helpful, like creating a throwaway to try and ernestly engage in a new online community. Put that mask out there as your avatar, knowing that you can always discard it when it ceases to be useful.

At a more advanced level you might go try participating in some public in-person activity, knowing you can exit that community at any time and return to your solitude. Even if in the worst case scenario they did come to ‘hate’ you, that ceases to matter once you leave them behind. They’ll forget you long before you forget them.

Let yourself feel the despair of failure, and then let yourself see how those feelings do nothing to stop you from living and growing. In fact, growing is ultimately impossible without failure. Focus on your successes, and let your past failures be signposts of your improvement.

Of course none of this is easy, but this is a journey that spans your whole life whether you want it to or not. Every time you gather the strength to engage thoughtfully with it (as you have here!), you plant seeds that you will someday get to enjoy the fruits of.

Support structures are key; DM me if you’d ever like to engage more directly in a dialog.

That’s how trolls draw people in further so they can more deeply upset them, it’s not a weird lie at all.

The networking aspect will likely be the trickiest, but if you’re already interested in administrating a VPS you can absolutely do it.

1. Have an ISP that doesn’t block inbound connections. So far both Comcast and Verizon have been cool to me in that regard.
2. Configure your router to always give your host machine the same internal-network IP address.
3. Configure your router to forward any relevant ports (TCP/80 for insecure HTTP, e.g.) to the internal address you assigned to your host.
4. Go to ifconfig.me or similar to ascertain your public Internet IP address.
5. Buy a domain (Namecheap has been good to me for a decade) and change its A record to point to that address!

Not hard, but not exactly uncomplicated either.

Wow, who hurt you? Vim is fun, and just because you can make things work without it doesn’t mean it has no practical benefit. It’s nice to have an editor as powerful as an IDE that doesn’t require a graphical environment.

Hundreds of shortcuts is emacs, by the way. A major perk of modal editing and the vi editing language is that you can compose relatively few operations to accomplish many tasks rather than memorizing lots of more complex and specific shortcuts.

It’s hilarious! My favorite Bale performance easily. Willem Dafoe is excellent too. I love the whole over-the-top 80s NYC yuppie caricature.

It’s also a scathing nightmare parable about the raw pursuit of wealth and influence.

A million to one of course.

edit: but still, they come!

I once had a debate with my audiophile uncle about how lossless compression results in identical inputs to the DAC, but he clung to the illusory superiority of WAV.

Bone skribis!

A strange choice. You’ve got most people who will be confused by the odd spelling, and then you’ve got esperantists like me who get confused by the missing accent mark. Until now, just seeing it in passing I assumed it was a password manager or something because of ‘forgesi’.

I am glad to see more Esperanto in the wild, though.

If you’ve got a complex and potentially nested object, what does the body of this simple function look like? That’s what they mean.

‘Toy’ feels strange to me here. It’s more of a just-works vs power-tool distinction. Sometimes people like tools that require you to RTFM because the deeper understanding has concrete benefits; it’s not just fun. User-friendliness is not all upside, it is still a tradeoff.

You’re absolutely right about hurting new users by not making the destinction, whatever label is used.

This is one of the little things I love about Gentoo. It’s rolling, but not bleeding edge.

Plus, you can opt into bleeding edge either per package or for all packages. It’s honestly a flexibility that doesn’t even require a source-based distro, so Arch could do it too.

Yep, Kraken’s been a big player in the exchange space for a long time.

Plus you can plug the mac into itself for free charging.

What reputable VPNs these days offer port forwarding? That’s a big part of what keeps me on a seedbox.

Oh, so it’s Hashcash; cool to see that idea getting real use.

Combine them into a blazing fast 14.4 MB RAID 0.

Religion hasn’t had its time so much as it is rapidly evolving along with the rest of society.

Religion does not have to mean sky daddy or even have to imply belief in the supernatural.